While any repressed emotion can take its toll on the mind and body, anger is particularly harmful when it remains unresolved. Anger rarely simply disappears when we choose to ignore it, and often erodes our life, sense of self, and our feelings of freedom and safety. In fact, the negative effects of unresolved anger can include adverse career consequences, mood disorders, relationship difficulties and even harm to our physical health.
Effects of Unresolved Anger
Unresolved anger tends to fester within us, leading to a host of negative consequences. When anger remains unresolved, it can sap our energy, impede our personal progress, and tax our bodies unnecessarily.
When anger remains unresolved, it often leads to outbursts, low self-esteem or resentment. These negative effects can take a toll on our personal relationships, leading to avoidance of conflict, lowered intimacy, and even verbal or physical abuse.
Anger Management Problems
For those who are depressed, anger management is often a problem. There are two types of anger: passive and aggressive. Passive anger is directed inward, with behaviors such as excessive apologizing, self-blame, manipulation and lack of assertive confrontation of issues. Aggressive behavior is directed outward, either excessively or not at the cause of the anger. Shouting, threats or physical violence can occur toward people or objects. In extreme cases, people with anger-management issues can fall into a fit of rage.
You May Need Professional Help with Anger If:
- Your behaviour has led to any sort of criminal or civil wrongdoing.
- You are violent towards your partner, children or other people.
- You threaten violence to people or property.
- You have outbursts of rage which involve deliberately breaking things.
- You have constant arguments with people close to you, your spouse/partner, parents, children, colleagues or friends.
- You feel angry frequently but internalize the emotion.
- You think that you may need professional help with your anger.