The Suffering of Change – or “Everything Changes Grasshopper”.
Change means that we must step outside of our comfort zone, delve into the unknown, take a risk, and take on a different perspective. Change requires that we take on an internal metamorphosis, and adapt to our new surroundings.
Each and every day our lives change before our eyes. We change schools, jobs, homes, friends, thoughts, activities, habits, and ideals. Each morning when we wake, we are not the person that we were the day before. We have learned new things, forgotten others, met new people, tried something new, and had new thoughts.
The Buddhist view posits that there are five processes on which no human being has control and which none can ever change. These five processes are namely, the process of growing old, of not falling sick, of dying, of decay of things that are perishable and of the passing away of that which is liable to pass.
We suffer in wanting things around us to change, but we also suffer when everything is going great, and we just want everything to stay as it is “right now”. We resist change, we fight change, some people accept change as it happens and others try to drive change and control it.
For me the hardest lessons about change have been about not trying to drive change, to push things in the direction I want them to go, and learning that my view and reaction to change was controllable while the change itself wasn’t.
Suffering is optional!